Originally Answered: Should I get an abortion?
You are in a tough place considering your living situation,being unemployed and recovering from your dads suicide. The father is a selfish mammas boy who betrayed your love and trust and it's understandable that you believe tying the baby to him through child support would make your life even more difficult.You can get full custody without ever having to see the creep again, and get a bit of revenge on his manipulative mother by agreeing to the freaking blood tests. This insulting demand works to your advantage. It gives you the tools to nail him through the courts,which will very effectively make him pay child support .Ask yourself if one reason for considering an abortion is to punish him, because you know it's his and the wicked witches grandchild! Revenge is best served cold, and paying 18 years of child support (21 if they go to college) would be rather sweet revenge and sufficient punishment for his betrayal, don't you think? But the reality is that abortion punishes you and the child and that bum gets off scott free because "problem solved".
I know alot of women who went through the gamete of emotions early in pregnancy about whether or not they could deal with the responsibilities of raising a child, weighed the abortion option and decided not to go with abortion, but to have it. Now they say it was the best choice. Perhaps this is what you need to shake off the depression and despair you have been experiencing. Babies are hope for the future, a new beginning that brings many gifts and opportunities for growth to the mother. You truly fall in love for the first time when you look in to the eyes of your newborn and receive that unconditional love back.Going through with the pregnancy might give you the opportunity to start concentrating on the positive possibilities your future holds and the chance to look at the glass half full instead of half empty. It's a great motivator to start eating healthy, exercising,examine all your own wonderful qualities that you have to offer , and experience the awesomeness and wonder of pregnancy. I loved being pregnant ( except, to be honest, for the last month when getting around got tough!) As life grows and moves within you one developes a clearer sense of purpose and more positive mindset about where life can go.
You might also consider adoption. A positive pregnancy that offers hope for a better future for another women who desperately wants a child and cannot have one would take on a whole new meaning and you would also be offering this child a chance at life. This child could very well be pivotal in the lives of many, either yours or the adoptive family. I have a friend who gave her child through adoption, they connected again when he was in his early 20s, and she now enjoys a great friendship and 3 grandchildren, none of whom would be here if she'd opted for abortion.He has thanked her for not having an abortion.