Covering up the sadness?
Topic: Beginning sounds homework help
June 26, 2019 / By Allyson Question:
I am a very depressed person. I don't like life, I don't mind living I just don't like life. I think much to much for someone of my age, I'm only 14 and I spend more time thinking about the reasons and ways the world works then which guys are "like totally hotties". I used to be very sad and people didn't like me so I began covering it up. I slowly acted happier and happier around people. I have lots of friends now, and with them I really am happy. We mess around, and have fun. I'm in my first year of high school I'm involved in band, so we have loads of fun and I get to be around them a lot. But lately I've been beginning to sink again. When I'm alone I feel horribly sad. I get myself so sad I feel like I can't ever be happy again. It's a horrible feeling, like I'm dying on the inside. I know what I am with my friends is just covering up who I really am, and I feel like I'm becoming different people. I feel different I like different things, different people, and just feel completely different. Right now the happy side of me still stays mostly in control, but every time the sad hits. It hits so hard. Also I;m pretty sure the sad part of me is well kind of insane. I'm kind of insane. I just feel so messed up right now. I don't know what to do. Please help me.
Best Answers: Covering up the sadness?
Uzziah | 5 days ago
I wonder why you think that at 14 anything in your life should be different than what it is right now? You're only 14, why are you thinking that you're at the end of anything? You're still at the beginning! Everyone gets sad, the key is to find out what is making you sad, and what changes need to be made to make things more pleasant, within reason, of course. It sounds like you are being way too hard on yourself, and it also sounds like a bid for popularity is what you are hinting at. School is not a fashion show, popularity contest or anything of the sort. You go there to learn, make friends, learn social skills, have your activities, and then go home and do homework. You sound like you're getting ahead of yourself in your own mind, during the time you have between your activities and school. You're 14, not 24 or 34, relax and enjoy your childhood!
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Originally Answered: How can I overcome this sadness?
Keep cool about it. I had a simmilar experience and I went out and bought her some embarrassingly expensive leaving gifts. I came to my senses in time and took them back to the shop instead of giving them to her. Just get her email address or send her a letter. Don't get creepy on her because she may not be attracted to you.
I'm sorry that both of you (the first person that answered and you) are feeling this way. I think it is fairly normal (I know I went through something like this and have off and on through out my life) I'm in my 50's now... BUT most of the time life has been good. It always seems to get better so hang in there. I hope you will not keep "pretending" and find someone you can trust to talk to. I'm glad that you said you DO feel happy when you are with your friends and doing some things. Maybe you can concentrate on doing things that make you happy. I'm not an expert so I hope you get some help from someone or talk to someone about how you are feeling. This was a first step. Don't keep it in, what ever you do. If you can't talk to someone, try to journal. Do you feel comfortable talking to a counselor, a parent of one of your friends, one of your parents, a clergy person. You may ask your parents to send you to counseling. I wish you the best.
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First of all you are not insane. I am sure there is a medical solution to what is happening to you. Have you ever heard of a disorder, bipolar, in which you go up and then down and then up and then down. There are several types and degrees of severity. You may not actually have this but it does explain your reversal of feelings. You need to go see a doctor and tell what's been going on with you. Bipolar can be genetic and can be treated. I know because I have it. Good luck hon..
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i kind of know how you feel. im 14 too, and my dad just passed away in january......so im sad alot, but i dont want people to think im a completely different person, so i try to act happy alot. just try to work through it, thats what i do. i just go day by day, and i try to stay busy with alot of activities so i dont get really sad again.
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Originally Answered: How do you ease your stress/sadness?
Wow, first of all I must say that you are very strong for staying in there. My parents did the same type of thing, except we were all in the same house. My mom would talk about my dad and my dad would talk about my mom. They both told me they wanted a divorce and wanted me to respond, but it seemed like whenever I said anything it was never right and only made things worse. Everyone expected me to get good grades because I've never had a C since seventh grade and that has it's whole own story... and I was a teen with normal teen worries, and I am the youngest of five so everyone else was out of the house and my parents are both getting older, yadda yadda yadda, blah blah, blah...
After a while it got to me too. Honestly I don't know how I made it. I just prayed hard every night and every day and kept my faith in God. I know it probably sounds corny, but I don't think I would've been able to handle it if it wasn't for God. My parents eventually kicked me out because my mom has a lot of problems and I tried to get her help, so my pastor and his family took me in.
Just stick through it and try not to let things hit your heart. Breathe, and relax even if it's in the dead of night, get some alone time and just think. I hope it gets better. Good luck, with everything.