Can the high and often prohibitive cost of newborn and ia adoption?
Topic: Case studies for social workers
July 17, 2019 / By Maxene Question:
Lead some people to foster care adoption for the wrong reasons?
I encouraged a coworker to adopt from foster care and she didn't seem interested until I mentioned it cost little to nothing. She's really pursuing it and the cost seems to be the biggest selling point. Will a foster care home study weed out people like her? We're not friends so how do I tell her that her motivation is all wrong.
Do you think this happens a lot?
Serenity and aloha I wish I could give her the benefit of the doubt but com
ments like "I could adopt a whole bunch of kids for less than the cost of a newborn." or "I can buy so many things for them with all the money i'll save" or "no 2 am feedings or potty training at no cost to me" the concept that these children are needing to be adopted because of abuse or neglect is escaping her.
Lori, i'm not almost sorry I mentioned it I AM sorry I did. I thought I was doing a good thing.
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Laureen | 4 days ago
Yes, I think the process will weed her out if she's not 'up to' adopting from foster care. There were several people in our MAPP class who dropped out suddenly at different points during the process. The social worker who led our MAPP group gave it to us straight and some people aren't ready for children who may have attachment disorders, disabilities of some kind, sibling groups, etc., etc. Also if your friends are really picky and want to "pick out" their baby, they'll keep getting passed over for children (for example, if they only want a girl, DCFS will not call them when a boy becomes available for adoption).
If her heart isn't in the right place (ie: that she wants to parent AND give a home and loving family to a child that really NEEDS them), it will probably become apparent very early on in the foster-to-adopt process. I say don't judge her too harshly. After all, you admit that she's not a friend, just a coworker. Maybe her finances are such that spending $30,000+ to adopt an infant domestically or internationally is unfeasible, but she really wants to be a parent. I don't see anything wrong with that as long as adoption isn't all about HER needs, but she is considering the child's needs as well.
ETA: In that case, I totally retract my original response. Tell this idiot that all of the foster kids in your area have been adopted and not to bother applying. Or better yet, tell her that you just read that the county is going to start charging $30,000 per adoption to help with the recession!
She doesn't deserve a dog, let alone the privilege of raising a child.
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How do you really know that's her only reason for looking into Foster-adopt. I know when we were looking into adoption seriously for the first time we looked at the costs of inter-country adoption. It threw me for a six when I saw just how much was involved and how much a non-profit inter-country adoption cost. Local did look better...but we also had other reasons for choosing local adoption than just monetary factors. I might have mentioned it to a few people out of disbelief...when someone tells you $50,000 is needed you might do a double take too when your focus is on a child's needs and then everyone suddenly wants a lot of money out of you in the process of becoming a parent. (How many women complain about the cost of gynoclogist? or hospital fee's...just because its meantioned does thats suddenly make their baby all about the money and stick a price on the babies head? of course not. But in adoption it becomes a focus by other people for some reason.)
If you're not close to her she might not have told you all of her reasons for adopting a child. I know I didn't just go around telling everyone my life story or justify to acquaintances when we wanted to become adoptive parents.
Also she might not have been hung up on the idea of adopting a newborn baby or it was the only way she'd accept a child into her life. So the idea of adopting through foster care could have been a god send to her. (Not everyone knows of all avenues especially in the initial stages of looking into it.)
Try talking to her more, get to know her and she might just feel comfortable enough to tell you her deeper reasons for wanting to adopt a child. All I'm saying is to many people assume things and take it all on face value rather than looking a bit deeper especially in a working environment.
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My sister and her husband adopted (which has been a blessing in our lives by the way) but the cost of private adoption was so incredibly high that I am sure it is cost prohibitive for most and it's ashamed to keep children lonely and parent less for bounty. Finally they adopted through the Baptist Children's Home which was still very expensive but the made it.
As far as foster parents. They themselves will not do any "weeding out" but all foster care is regulated by the state of it's occupancy and the state regulations are very stringent and applicants are screened thoroughly. My brother-in-law is a baptist minister and my sister a teacher and the state still screened, interviewed and investigated them for 3 years before approval.
As far as telling your friend she is basically unfit. Well I guess that depends if you want her to be a friend anymore but here is your way out. If she applies she will have to fill out extensive paperwork with a lot of references. If you end up as a reference you will be interviewed anonymously and it's a state statute violation for your comments to be released. That seems like a bit more reasonable way out for you.
I hope this helps.
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I would fine it harder to tell her if we "were" friends. That way I would have to be very careful with my wording. If it were someone I wasn't close to I would just flat out tell her that she seems to be more interested in the cost than the actual child and that makes me wonder what her motivations really are, giving a child a home who truly needs one or obtaining a shinny new object at bargain basement prices. Once obtained will she still be interested in her prize or is the adrenalin rush of getting it all she's in it for? Then tell her you're almost sorry you even brought it up to her.
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A lot of internationally adopted kids who have been in orphanages have the same issues as many foster kids, like RAD & behavior problems, & attachment issues.
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