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So how can I get out o fthis situation and please give me some advice on it?

So how can I get out o fthis situation and please give me some advice on it? Topic: Group problem solving and decision making
June 19, 2019 / By Amethyst
Question: When I was a child and going through highschool, I used to be considered on eo fthe smarter people. I got decent grades, was a piano prodigy, was told to become a famous writer, blah blah. I was in the top 10% of the entire grade. Then came university. I developed serious acute depression due to untreated depression which developed since I was 16, and my grades were just about average. My other highschool mates fared better than I did. Second year came, and I got a psychotic nervous breakdown which got me into accepting treatment. My marks did suffer, but I managed to make it slightly better than the first year. Overall 70%. Third year came along, my depression was getting treated, I got 4.0 in the first hal fof the year, then came traumatic events which worsened my problems and I failed to subjects. After taking a year off, I am back again, retaking the two of the hardest courses at in the sciences (the one sthat I have failed), getting 70's and an 80's in my courses. But what do you know. I am failing one science course right now. And I actually did ALOT of studying, but I am failing it. Currently, I have a decent group of friends, but I don't talk to them that much. I feel easily tired by small things, I can't get around to studying intensely for more than 4 hours a day, grooming myself seems hard for me, and I often wake up with a sinking feeling as to how I am going to face the world and get myself off to school. AI have no boyfriend. I have some job experience, but I haven't worked as much as certain people: restaurant job, medical clinic job, convenience store, etc. I used to find alot of passion in studying, but I can't bring myself to do it. How can I get out of this problem? I hate going to my house, I feel like I am watched all teh time, I have no support network except for my family. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Ometimes, I don't feel like doing anything at all. The people who brought on the traumatic experience in 3 rd year university were criminals. They tried to destroy my life and drive me to suicide. I still think to myself that they are still oiut there, and I feel vulnerable and exposed all the time. I think that the friends that I have left try to expoit my vulnerability because I have no one to turn to; they constantly give me stress if I don't do as I am told, and I am forced to make decisions or coerced into making decision just to hold on to whatever shred of self dignity that I have. How can I get out of this?
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Ward Ward | 4 days ago
It is only normal that after such situations you would (overtime) feel depressed, lost and maybe lonely. There is no wonder in that. BUT....There's a difference in letting yourself take over those thoughts and fall for it...and stopping your mind from thinking those thoughts...and therefore solving part of the problem. Putting that in words...If you intend to make yourself happy...you WILL..."in time" find yourself very happy....Smile to yourself, read books...(It takes you to a different world)...go back to places you enjoyed to go to in your past...Visit those places, and your happy valued memories will cling back and remind you of your puny size in comparison to this BIG world!!! At the end...Refer to things and materials, forget studying for now...Your time will come when your mind is ready for it...You just have to be patient
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That would make anyone's heart sink! :( You are completely entitled to feel raging jealousy and desperate insecurity, but check it before you make decisions about acting on it. You were smart to see how she would handle it before. You might be wise to watch what she does again. I say this because if you act out with jealousy you will have given her a certain amount of emotional control and then schlong-dude becomes "forbidden fruit". I doubt you'd really want to make him more appealing to her, but that may be what the jealousy reaction does. If you decide to bring it up, you could just do so somewhat casually, and see what happens. But you may be better off just showing her in many little ways of daily life that marriage to you is far better than living out a "what-if" scenario with schlong-dude. Somehow, I think she already knows it or she would have stayed with him instead of falling in love with you and settling down. Sting operations take a certain amount of watching and waiting anyway, I'm guessing. Her actions will tell you far more than her words will.
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Russell Originally Answered: Any advice for my situation?
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