Originally Answered: How to survive high school hated?
Well, I feel your pain. I had 4 pretty tough years of high school. I didn't enjoy it, and had only a few friends. I was teased and picked on, and one time a group of boys spit on me as I walked by. I was also picked up by some fellow students and put in the trash dumpsters once. At that's just a small portion of what happened. I will say this - it does get better. I am now 36, and am having a pretty successful career in the music and entertainment industry in Los Angeles. I live in a wonderful area, hang out with famous people, get to go to any concert I want...and most of those fools I went to HS with are freezing their *** off in the mid west trying to decide if they should use the green or red checked tablecloth for their Christmas dinner. I also did make 4 friends in high school. (That's not many, when the school I was in had about 1200 students). But, know what? They are all still my friends. They are true and genuine people. My sister (who was popular) doesn't talk to ANY of her "friends" from high school anymore. So, as tough as it is, and as nasty as it is, don't let it control you or define you. I was miserable in high school, so I sought out different friends and interests outside of school that led to my music career (I found a small magazine in my area that was hiring writers. I liked music and writing, so I submitted a sample and was able to write for them, which was what started introducing me to bands and the music industry). I also had my church, and my family and books and volunteering at a dog shelter - all things I enjoyed that helped me kind of forget the unhappy experience school was. And remember this, most of these people who are picking on you, they are having problems with their own self esteem and they are the ones who are not confident and kind. Not you - that's not on you. They are the ones with the problems, so try not to let them bring you down. Listen to Taylor Swift's "Mean" when you need a boost, that's a good song for those being messed with. I'm not saying don't try to make friends or anything...go ahead and still try to be nice to these people (be the bigger person) and just be confident and collected, show them they can't ruffle your feathers. Of course, protect yourself if need be, but try not to let them get the better of you. Hold your head high, smile and remind yourself they are not worth it. Hang in there sweetie, I know it is tough, but it will be OK.