My daughter is intelligent, how do I foster this?
Topic: Children s newspaper writing for kids
June 19, 2019 / By Nimbus Question:
My daughter is in the third grade currently. Her Mother and I are divorced and have been since she was three years old.
I always thought my daughter was your any day average intelligent young girl. She just recently has taken interest in history -- Vietnam War, World War II, and world politics.
Currently I enrolled her in summer school so she has a place to go while I'm working. She came to me three weeks ago because a teacher of hers took a notebook away from her. I went to the school to retrieve the notebook from the teacher.
Looking through the notebook it was a 250 page screenplay she had written. I know this was written by her because of the handwriting. I asked her about it and she spoke in depth about what she was writing. i was absolutely amazed. I went to the summer school principal and he agreed to have her IQ tested by the school psychiatrist. They tested her a total of four times. Her result was 160.
I don't know what to do now. I want to treat her as any average child. She doesn't have many friends. I've told her to invite classmates over for lunch. She has told me she doesn't want to do this because "they think she's strange because of the things she's interested in." Is there anybody out there who can help me out?
Best Answers: My daughter is intelligent, how do I foster this?
Korah | 10 days ago
I think I can help. While I'm not as gifted as your daughter, I have that same desire for knowledge that she has, and my father did exactly what you are trying to do: he cultivated that knowledge. I'm 15 now, and I know that if my father had not helped me as much as he did, I wouldn't be who I am today in terms of intelligence.
This is what I would advise you to do (and this is what my father did for me). Read the newspaper at breakfast and ask her if she'd like to look at it. Talk to her about global issues, and ask her for her opinion on various topics, like healthcare and other issues. Have her learn another language (If she's anything like I was, she'll love learning another language and will thrive at it). If there aren't any languages offered at school, see if you can get her a tutor to teach her, or enroll her in an after-school language program.
Take her as many places as you can go. Travel broadens the mind, and she will have so many different experiences through travel that will really help her see the world through a different angle than what is taught in textbooks.
Ask her trick questions and buy her logic books. My dad used to ask me these types of questions (for example: if you're going through tolls on the highway, and there are two lanes and one seems longer but has two trucks in it and the other looks shorter but has five cars, ask her why you chose to go to the line that looks longer. The answer: two trucks = two people and five cars = five people. Less people means less time waiting for the toll, so the longer, two-truck line is the more logical line to wait in). Look into developing her screenplay.
I don't think you should treat her like an "average child." I mean, sure, if you have other children, you should do that, but I always felt special when my dad told me (and he still does) that I can do anything I set my mind to, including getting into any college I choose.
As for socializing, I know exactly where she is coming from. It's difficult to find others at that age who share the same interests as she does, because she's so advanced. She probably feels more comfortable around adults than she does around other kids. If you feel comforable with it, you can have her send me a message via Yahoo! Answers, and I can show her that she's not the only one, and that I was like she was at her age.
I also think you should look into getting her into the gifted program at her school, if it's offered. If there is no gifted program, you might want to consider having her skip a grade, where she would feel more comfortable. Look into private schools, if you can afford them (although I'm sure she could get a scholarship if you can't because she's so bright). Going to a private school definitely helped me.
I hope this helps. If you have any other questions about your daughter, feel free to send me a message. I'd be happy to help :)
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I've got myself two really smart kids, now young adults. Like many, mine had below-average social skills and way-above-average academic skills. Neither of my kids could possibly have extended a lunch invitation at that age. (They're both still pretty shy and reserved, but perfectly happy adults.)
Being a well-rounded person is important, so you can't just blow off the social skills part. But you can make a major effort to put her into situations in which she will be with the other smart kids her age. Start with finding out his her school has any kind of enrichment program for gifted students. Even if she has little interest, encourage her to check out special-interest clubs likely to draw her school's smartest students, like a chess club. Encourage her to pursue some interests which have nothing to do with her mind and everything to do with fun, so she can interact with regular kids, too, and see that she's no better or worse than they are, just with a different strength and some of the same weaknesses. (Guaranteed there are other kids with poor social skills.)
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Ya. Tell your daughter to edit that screenplay down to a standard 120 pages (240 is a bit much when one page is supposed to equal one minute) and start shopping it around to production companies. More likely than not, if she is that good, someone will buy it.
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there's my usual answer to these kinds of questions (leave her be and just meet her at her level), and then there's my answer if her iq is really 160. most kids with that high of an iq are not going to get their needs met in a public school. i'd work hard to get her into a school with other kids like her. otherwise not only are her academic needs not going to be met, but her social ones may suffer, as well.
check out http://www.hoagiesgifted.org/
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Talk to the school board and see if they have gifted classes or a gifted school she would attend. or if it's affordable, you could see about a private school who focuses on preparing children for college.
You can still treat her like a regular kid, but give her opportunities that will help her excel and succeed.
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Encourage her to stay in school, keep reading books and she will be fine. She sounds like a really good kid.
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Your daughter is intellectually indulgent, make sure that she doesn't use up her time just studying, give her recreational activities too. :-)
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