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Divorce help? Topic: Divorce in florida papers
June 20, 2019 / By Robert
Question: I have been divorced for 5 months and my son lives with his father. Who is allowed to claim him on our taxes. we have joint custody. i have heard alot of different answers to this quetion, but if anyone in florida has been through this, and know the real answer please let me know.
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Micajah Micajah | 2 days ago
hey i live in florida and i also have joint custody of my son what we do is (it is in our divorce aggreement) we take turns one year him the next me so it's fair and this should have been addressed in your aggrement if not i would try to re do the paper work so that it is in there in writing.... good luck and read over your papers and see if he lives full time with his dad and weekends with you it might be that he (dad) is going to get the claim it is a time thing here in florida if your son spends 50% with u and 50% with dad there is the split of claim but if he spends 70% with dad and 30% with you it can go in dad's favor to claim him every year because he spends the majority of the fiscal year with dad..... good luck i know this is the real answer i am living it but our son spends 2 weeks with me and than 2 weeks with his dad we live in the same school district and my boy likes this situation alot at first it was hard but my ex and i have worked it out and no matter our feelings for each other (usually hatred) we don't show it around our son .. get your divorce papers out and see what the court decided it has got to be in there somewhere...
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Micajah Originally Answered: How to cope with divorce?
FIRST AID KIT FOR DIVORCING/DIVORCED DADS Phase One - The Critical First Days YOU'VE BEEN HURT. If you don't act now, the wound may get worse. For most men, it's the first time such a massive shock has hit them - they are off balance, reeling. Those persons who have hurt them are probably preparing to take advantage of this imbalance to get another shot. PLEASE STOP AND THINK CLEARLY! No matter how stable the situation now seems, no matter what other advice you've received, the clock is running, faster than you think. YOU MUST ACT NOW! This First Aid Kit has been assembled by men who have survived the same crisis you're now enduring - your problem isn't unique. By recognizing the predictable aspects, you can take control of the situation, but you must DO IT NOW! IF YOUR DIVORCE IS JUST BEGINNING If your wife is taking the initiative in a no-fault state, consider now the inevitability of a divorce. She has absolute, unstoppable power to do it to you. Seize that initiative yourself. Get an attorney RIGHT NOW, and file as plaintiff yourself. If you want custody of your children, convince your attorney to get an ex parte order granting you temporary custody, effective immediately, and pursue making that order permanent. DON'T SIGN ANY PRELIMINARY AGREEMENTS Many men in a misguided attempt to stop the divorce have signed documents which their attorneys later found impossible to break. Men have, in the first day, even hours of despair, signed away all their property, their children, their rights. DON'T MOVE OUT OF YOUR HOME It's yours, too. If at all possible, keep the children with you in the family home. Not only will this be the most emotionally stabilizing thing to do for your children, it will help immeasurably in obtaining permanent custody, if you want it. Once the children and the home are no longer directly under your control, your chances of getting either back drop drastically. If a babysitter/housekeeper is needed, do whatever you need to do to provide one. These few days or months may be crucial in later proving to a judge that you are the more responsible, caring, capable of the two parents. FIGHT TACTICAL COURT ORDERS IMMEDIATELY She may have obtained an order throwing you out of your own home, seizing or freezing your assets, etc. Don't let someone talk you into collapsing now under the weight of such common tactical burdens. You must fight such orders when they are fresh. EVALUATE YOUR ATTORNEY CRITICALLY Listen for phrases like, "You don't have much of a chance for custody", "Let her have it (property or custody) now, we'll get it back later", "You don't need to be present at the hearing", etc. BEWARE! Such statements are indicative of attorneys not skilled in representing the man successfully, or possibly just out to get what they can, with no real intent of fighting what is, for nearly every man, the more difficult side of the divorce case. If, for any reason, you suspect that you're not getting the strongest advocacy possible, seek another lawyer. MONEY, MONEY, MONEY Nobody is ever really prepared for the expense of legally seeking his rights; but no matter what your financial situation, now is not the time to be cheap. You'll lose much more in the long run. Most lawyers will take a woman's divorce case on the expectation that you'll lose, and have to pay them too. You don't have that presumption, and may have to come up with "front money", and eventually dip into your assets. If you want custody, it could cost between $3,000 and $10,000. STOP. THINK. What is important to you now? What will be important to you years later, when all this has been encased in cement? If you have control over assets and income which she could use for legal expenses, can you tie these up yourself? SEEK HELP NOW You need every bit of support yo u can get now, from your family, friends, your lawyer, neighbors, public opinion, your employer, your banker, minister, and/or physician. You were probably dependent on your wife for much of the emotional support you're going to need right now. SHE'S NOT THE SAME PERSON ANYMORE She is, unfortunately, an adversary, being advised by an attorney with only her interest in mind. Be courteous, but don't let the natural tendency of most men to be "gentlemen" destroy your future happiness. You may still care for her, but she's picked up and is pointing at you a weapon far more powerful than even she may recognize - the Divorce Court System and its practitioners. BE YOURSELF - DON'T BE "BAITED" Resist your wife's provocations to irrational or even violent reaction; she may have been advised by a lawyer of "liberated" friends to make you look the "bad guy" in court. Consider the consequences of everything you put into writing, everything you say to her on a possibly recorded phone or in the presence of witnesses. If you have progressed beyond the stage where this advice isn't directly useful to you, don't despair. There is hope at every p

Jotham Jotham
Im not a tax person nor in florida. That said, what I heard, and think is justifiable is that it either goes to the he spends the most with per year, or you divide the claim along the lines of how much time he spends. So if he lives with dad, and dad pays all the bills, you better believe that dad has the right to claim him on taxes. Thats how federal taxes are going to see it, and that shouldn't vary from state to state.
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Harlan Harlan
okay have you at anytime supported this child for 50% of the yr? If so you can claim him on your taxes. That is what I was told by an H&R block rep. I live in fla too. I hope I helped.
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Elam Elam
not in florida but you can try and work it out with your ex so that you both could claim you son every other year but your ex would have to be willing to do so
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Carlisle Carlisle
if your son lives with your ex- then he does claim him on taxes,unless the judge said different.it should be in your divorce papers.call your lawyer and find out.if you both claim him then the IRS will send both of you letters and they will find out the truth and you'll both be in trouble.
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Carlisle Originally Answered: How does a divorce affects.?
Emotional Stages of Divorce The decision to end a relationship can be traumatic, chaotic, and filled with contradictory emotions. There are also specific feelings, attitudes, and dynamics associated with whether one is in the role of the initiator or the receiver of the decision to breakup. For example, it is not unusual for the initiator to experience fear, relief, distance, impatience, resentment, doubt, and guilt. Likewise, when a party has not initiated the divorce, they may feel shock, betrayal, loss of control, victimization, decreased self esteem, insecurity, anger, a desire to "get even," and wishes to reconcile. To normalize clients experiences during this time, it may be helpful to know that typical emotional stages have been identified with ending a relationship. It may also be helpful to understand that marriages do not breakdown overnight; the breakup is not the result of one incident; nor is the breakup the entire fault of one party. The emotional breaking up process typically extends over several years and is confounded by each party being at different stages in the emotional process while in the same stage of the physical (or legal) process. It is also quite normal to do different things to try to create distance from the former partner while divorcing. Unfortunately, this distancing often takes the form of fault finding. Not to be disrespectful, but it's not unlike the process one goes through in deciding to buy a new car: somehow every flaw in that favorite old car needs to be noticed and exaggerated in order to feel okay about selling it. Also, if the other person is portrayed as really awful, one can escape any responsibility for the end of the marriage. A common response to divorce is to seek vengeance. When parties put their focus on getting even, there is an equal amount of energy expended on being blameless. What's true is that blaming and fault finding are not necessary or really helpful. Psychologist Jeffrey Kottler has written a very helpful book on this subject entitled Beyond Blame: A New Way of Resolving Conflicts in Relationships, published by Jossey-Bass. Another normal rationalization is that the marriage was a wholly unpleasant experience and escaping it is good. Or the marriage was unpleasant and now the other partner must make this up in the divorce. Thinking that the marriage was wholly unpleasant is unfair to both parties and can hinder emotional healing. Both stayed in the marriage for as long as they did because there were some good things about it. There were also some things that did not work for them and these are why they are divorcing. Much of your clients' healing will involve acceptance, focusing on the future, taking responsibility for their own actions (now and during the marriage), and acting with integrity. Focusing on the future they would like to create may require an acknowledgment of each other's differing emotional stages and a compassionate willingness to work together to balance the emotional comfort of both parties. The following information on the emotional stages of ending a relationship is provided to help parties through the emotional quagmire of ending a relationship and assist in their personal healing. I. DISILLUSIONMENT OF ONE PARTY (sometimes 1-2 years before verbalized) A. Vague feelings of discontentment, arguments, stored resentments, breaches of trust B. Problems are real but unacknowledged C. Greater distance; lack of mutuality D. Confidential, fantasy, consideration of pros and cons of divorce E. Development of strategy for separation F. Feelings: fear, denial, anxiety, guilt, love, anger, depression, grief II. EXPRESSING DISSATISFACTION (8-12 months before invoking legal process) A. Expressing discontent or ambivalence to other party B. Marital counseling, or C. Possible honeymoon phase (one last try) D. Feelings: relief (that it's out in the open), tension, emotional roller coaster, guilt, anguish, doubt, grief III. DECIDING TO DIVORCE (6-12 months before invoking legal process) A. Creating emotional distance (i.e., disparaging the other person/situation in order to leave it) B. Seldom reversible (because it's been considered for awhile) C. Likely for an affair to occur D. Other person just begins Stage I (considering divorce) and feels denial, depressed, rejected, low self-esteem, anger E. Both parties feel victimized by the other F. Feelings: anger, resentment, sadness, guilt, anxiety for the family, the future, impatience with other, needy IV. ACTING ON DECISION (beginning the legal process) A. Physical separation B. Emotional separation (complicated by emotional flareups) C. Creating redefinition (self orientation) D. Going public with the decision E. Setting the tone for the divorce process (getting legal advice and setting legal precedent: children, support, home) F. Choosing sides and divided loyalties of friends and families G. Usually when the children find out (they

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