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Any ideas on how to teach a non empathetic man to be more caring?

Any ideas on how to teach a non empathetic man to be more caring? Topic: Empathesis
July 19, 2019 / By Chauncy
Question: I'm married for twelve years and anytime I show any emotion, Sadness, overly joyed, crying, anger, love, his very first response is to become defensive. He gets angry almost a rage when he sees me having any emotion. We don't make love it's just sex. He don't say nothing nice to me. And when I ask him about it he says it's because I say nothing nice to him. Nothing feels natural everything feels controlled or ignored. He keeps saying he loves me and he will do anything to make it work but when push comes to shove nothing changes. So he asking me now to teach him to be empathetic And he laughs that I don't have any good examples and to do the same things over and over gets fake. Oh the irony! I think he's doing this just to drive me crazy.
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Alvy Alvy | 5 days ago
Never try to change a man. Let's say he's now in his 30's. All his life for all those years he's been the way he is.....what makes you think YOU can change that? please. Play Harry Met Sally some weekend and pop some popcorn and hope for the best!!
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Alvy Originally Answered: PHP program ideas? what should I teach? *I KNOW PRETTY MUCH EVERYTHING*?
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Alvy Originally Answered: PHP program ideas? what should I teach? *I KNOW PRETTY MUCH EVERYTHING*?
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Thrud Thrud
You cant teach an old dog new tricks. BUT if you want to try... maybe you can start by pointing out his non-empathetic reactions/behavior anytime he behaves in that manner. Catch him in the act and let him know at that moment what he is doing that you consider non-empathetic. Good luck.
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Thrud Originally Answered: Why am I so empathetic?
Congratulations! Your are a Telepath! Since you are about 16 now, your powers should reach their peak in the next couple of years. Don't worry about the feeling other peoples emotions, that is completely normal. If you try, you might find that you can actually influence a persons emotions, it really is pretty cool. That will take a lot of practice to do anything to terribly cool though. Have fun with your new powers!
Thrud Originally Answered: Why am I so empathetic?
It's just the way you are. You are extremely empathetic for the same reason that people on the other end of the scale, so to speak, are sociopaths. It is the way your mind is wired. There's nothing wrong with you, it's just the type of person you are. As I have never experienced this, I would not know how to deal with it, but there are a lot of people just like you that have found ways to deal with the emotional overload... I'd look around the internet for their stories. I guess you just have to allow yourself to let go sometimes, and realize that it's not always your responsibility to help. Reserve your energy and compassion for when it's really important.

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