What would you want your teen to do?
Topic: Worst and best case scenario for first time
April 22, 2019 / By Neo Question:
A few days ago I was in a lot of pain and I didn't want to tell my parents. So I took one of my moms pain pills. Nothing else was working and I was desperate. A little while later I was laying on the couch because I hurt so bad and my dad brought me over some Tylenol and Advil to take. I didn't want to turn it down because then they would ask questions and I didn't want to lie to them so I took it. I got really sick that night from all the medicine and my mom asked me why and I couldn't lie to her so I told her the truth. This was the next morning and they were getting ready to leave out of town for the day so she said she would deal with me when they got home. I waited all day finally they got home and my mom informed me that I would have to wait until she calmed down before we would talk about what I did. I've done a lot of stupid stuff lately. I don't mean to it just kinda keeps happening. Anyways a few days went by and then last night my mom sat me down and told me that I had lost her trust and that I would have to earn it back. I expected a lot of things like being grounded or them talking away driving privileges but not that. I never expected to loose her trust. She told me that it would take time and I realize that. I have accepted it and I guess it's fair. I've messed up a lot and pushed to far. I guess the thing I need help with is how do I earn it back. She told me I'm not longer allowed to get my own meds. Either she or my father has to get them for me. And they're all now locked in a closet. I agree that's fair too. I just... I don't mean to keep messing up it just keeps happening. My mom also told me that at this point if I keep messing up she'll take away more of my privileges. What do I do? how do I fix this? How do I earn back her trust?
I'm no longer allowed to get my own meds (Tylenol, Advil, ect..) That's what I've lost so far
oh and I"m 16
Best Answers: What would you want your teen to do?
Kim | 10 days ago
No matter how perfect people may seem, we have all done something in our childhood that we had to take responsibility for. You are definitely not the first.
You lost your mom's trust by sneaking around and stealing from her, which is exactly what you did by taking her pain pills. As a mother, I know that must have rocked her world. It will take time to earn her trust back, but how long depends on your future actions as well as your relationship with her. You started out right, by confessing to what you did and accepting responsibility for it. The only thing you can do now is to truly think through your choices before you act on them. Imagine the worst-case scenario and ask yourself, "would it be worth it?"
Do whatever your parents ask of you without so much as a dirty look. You are in the doghouse, but how you act while you're in there will determine how long you stay.
Let your mom know that you realize what you did was not only deceptive, but that you could have caused real harm to yourself. Apologize to her for stealing and tell her that you respect your body enough to never do anything like that again. Don't expect her to believe you, that will come in time.
You just gotta ride it out now, kiddo. You'll be alright.
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no matter what, u did the right thing to tell ur parents. u seem like a very bright girl with a very level head. just explain to ur mom that u keep messing up a lot and most of the things u dont mean to do. ur mom sounds pretty reasonable too. she should understand. it always takes longer to earn trust than it does to destroy it. just be patient, and do what u think is right from now on. even if that means sucking up through any punnishments u might get. maturity is the easiest way to earn back trust. hope this helps and good luck sweety.
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how old are you exactly? maybe your parents think you might overdose? have u been acting different around them lately?
also, they are not handling it the best way, they should be talking to you and telling you why they were wrong to take and stuff.
to earn back her trust you should first have a talk with her and be like "oh i'm sorry i've been acting different lately, i seem to be going through a difficult stage in my life because its hard growing up. and that you really want her to know that you'll try to be better.
the trust thing will take time. just be good from now on and do extra things they dont ask u to do like dishes, making your bed, etc.
👍 41 | 👎 -2
I don't know.
I never understood the earning back trust thing. You just go about life not getting into trouble and that gets your trust back or something.
I don't know.
I am 19 and my mom still hides the meds. Weird..I have never given her a reason to do so.
Just don't mess up.
What priviledges has she taken away so far?
👍 32 | 👎 -8
Well first off I give a thumbs up to you for admitting that you did take her pain medication. From now on though, you should be totally up front with her, tell her that you are sorry for taking medication without her permission, and show her that you are sincere with your apology, and I know that you really do care about their feelings, cause if you didn't you wouldn't be asking this question. So I suggest you just really make your apology caring, and show your parents that you really do feel bad about this whole situation.
👍 23 | 👎 -14
Trust is easy to lose and hard to get back in fact it is the hardest thing in the world to get from anyone. there is nothing that you can do but do the right thing and keep doing it that is the only thing that you can do.
there is no quirk fixes to this and you have no choice but to ether set things right by way of showing that you can be trusted or by staying with things the way they have been and have no trust with them.
The fact that you told her the truth is something that i would have to say is something that is going in your favor and is something that could really help you get things back to that way that you have the trust again.
👍 14 | 👎 -20
Its gonna take time. Theres no quick fix to earning back someone's trust.
Just try your best to be truthful, reliable and trustworthy whenever they ask you something or ask you to do something.
Maybe you should have just told your mom that nothing else was working and that you wanted to try one of her pain pills. Its unlikely she would have said no if she understands you're in pain. communication isn't that hard.
👍 5 | 👎 -26
Keep on your best behavior. I have had to earn my mom's trust back before & that's how I did it. There isn't much you can do anymore, at least you didn't lie about it. Also, apologize if you haven't already.
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that seems a little harsh to me... My mom expects me to get myself and other pople medicene... but anyways, I know what you feel like.. nothing is going right
Try cleaning the house everyday. Do things before they are asked. Pick up siblings from school. Anything to show your mom you are more responsible then she thinks.
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