Topic: Just in case shotgun
May 22, 2019 / By Niles Question:
I had just e-mailed an Answers user to show her how to allow contacts, because she didn't realize that she wasn't allowing contacts to add her, and asked me to explain how to change this. The very next day she sent the following, "I am adusting my profile and info as requested by the man I love. He worries for me and I love him to much to even care to argue his points." Of course now even her profile name has changed to "...", and she is no longer allowed to accept e-mails, contacts, nor IM's. I would never have such a lack of love and respect for my girlfriend as to dictate to her how she can use her time online(and if she accepted such behavior from me, I'd no longer be with her, because I'd no longer respect her). Why do women stay with losers like this? What is the driving force that causes a woman to have such low self-respect that they'd stay in such an unhealthy relationship? It's pretty sad, in my opinion.
Wendy, Jenna, Cyn, and Girly - You all gave very good answers. Thanks you for sharing your personal experiences with us. You have given a lot of insight into this problem.
Mark - You're right... abuse isn't a gender issue, it's a Human issue. Both males and females can be abusers (and abusees). Those who experience abuse as children can go either way, depending upon their genetic makeup, and the kinds of abuse experienced. Thank you for sharing your own experience. I myself witnessed this with my father's third wife, she was emotionally, mentally, and physically abusive - she even shot at my father with a shotgun at one point (and my father is no winp by any means). After I had a talk with him about it, he left her and went back to his second wife (who is now his fouth :) ). Here's a short page that has some more info of the abuse of males- http://www.cyberparent.com/abuse/maleabu...
Konnie - The question is both... why do abusers abuse and why do abusees take it. In my experience in every case I've heard of it comes down to both sides being abused or being around abuse as children.
Peter - Very good points - I know a few woman who are exactly as you've just described
Drowzee - Damn, girl, you always give good answers. Very good insight. I agree with everything that you've said.
Rebel - You also give good answers. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. Very impressive.
Sybil - It's sound like you've found a kind, caring master to allow you "live life". You must be a very happy lap-dog.
Haha - The fact that you don't realize that this kind of behavior is abusive is very telling. It makes me wonder how your parents treated each other
Tallooolah - His very well might be bigger than mine. My girlfriend got a kick out of your reply, because when we have sex she orgasms three times to every one of mine, on average. I may only have an average sized penis, but we're a perfect fit. ROTFL
Sapient - I realize that with the information that I've given you, YOU wouldn't have enough to be able to determine anything. The person has seen this question and has provided me with a lot more personal info (which I don't feel comfortable sharing... if she wants to, she will post in here) that just makes me realize that my conclusion is sound. As for me "letting it go" I have no emotional investment in this other than a realization that this sort of behavior stems from a cycle of abuse. Anyone who has a sense of civic responsibility should do whatever they can to prevent child abuse, which is an integral part of the cycle of abuse. The best way to do this is to educate adults who are in the cycle, so that they have enough information to be able to break the cycle. The fact that you seem to be against this is also somewhat telling.
Sapient - Um, one person trying to control their partner is a form of abuse - http://www.abusefacts.com/abuse/
Maybe you should educate yourself before you post. Children are always a part of the cycle of abuse, whether it be past abuse, current abuse, or future abuse.
Why do you assume that I care if this person contacts me? You are totally misguessing my intentions, and making yourself look foolish.