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How is your relationship with your father? Can you blame me for not being close with my dad?

How is your relationship with your father? Can you blame me for not being close with my dad? Topic: D day facts for homework
May 22, 2019 / By Norton
Question: I know this is a personal question but I'm just wondering. I mean, I love my father because were related. But I'm not really close to him at all. He worked and provided for us as family like he was supposed to. But even when he was home, he was always tired and never really seemed interested in bonding with me or my sister. I remember when we would play touch football as kids, he'd loose his patience really easily and the day would usually end with him screaming. I remember he used to say mean stuff to my sister and I too. Like onetime he said that I'm like dinosaur and that I won't make it out there while all the rats(I guess smarter people) will survive because the rats survived the dinosaur extinction by living underground or whatever. He said that because I hated school when I was in elementary school and I got bad grades. Now that he's older, he doesn't say mean things to me anymore. But I also notice that whenever I'm swamped with homework, he says I'm always doing homework and he thinks I uses it as a crutch so I won't go out. I'm in college now and I have some heavy hitting classes. But then didn't he do the same thing when he worked? I remember the first time I saw him when was when I was 4. He also has hip problems now that he's older. I feel bad for him but I would probably feel worse if my mom was in his predicament. I mean don't get me wrong, we had fun as a family but it seems like the bad stuff outnumbers the good times. I almost resent him because I know I don't want to raise my kids like how he raised my sister and I.
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Lamont Lamont | 5 days ago
I don't have a very close relationship with my father, in fact i try to avoid him, he is a mean person, and says even meaner things without knowing it. i can't blame you for not being close to your father, but you can try to re build a better relationship with him. that's what i'm trying to do. You never know when he might pass away, and you always want to remember the positive things about him. Hoped i helped
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Lamont Originally Answered: Teacher/student relationship. how close it to close?
Depending on your age, if your like in jr high or lower a coach will usually play the sport and help out alot more than what people normally see, especially if the coach is super nice. I had a coach that did the same thing but I was in high school at the time. he was really nice to everything, made jokes, and laughed at jokes even made at him by his students. he was a kind a person that expressed himself in weird ways but everyone understood him easily. if she does not have kids she probably does consider yall her kids. thats why some people become teachers is because they like helping and being around kids alot
Lamont Originally Answered: Teacher/student relationship. how close it to close?
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Lamont Originally Answered: Single Father, Relationship Has Deteriorated, Want to Be a Good Father, Mother Being Difficult?
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Lamont Originally Answered: Single Father, Relationship Has Deteriorated, Want to Be a Good Father, Mother Being Difficult?
honestly...she's pregnant and freaking out, dont hold her accountable for her words just yet. but after the baby is born, get a paternity test and then ask the courts for visitation. that baby is both yours and hers, regardless of what she wants that will always be true. she cannot take your rights away as a father unless you do something really bad such as drugs, violence, etc. you will get regular visitation if you're as good a person as you say you are....she will not get "every penny". she will get around 30 percent, which is to support your child...so you shouldnt be upset about that. the courts will decide how much money she gets, not her. i would honestly just wait it out, because i know for a fact that being a single mother is hard and most likely she WILL call you up to help her out when that baby is crying at 3am and she hasnt gotten more than 3 hours sleep at a time for like a long amount of time. my advice....just wait it out.
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