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What should I do, I want to make the right strategic choice with this girl?

What should I do, I want to make the right strategic choice with this girl? Topic: New girl the sister
May 26, 2019 / By Anitra
Question: Today is New Years. I started to grow feelings for this girl, the problem is she goes to a private school whereas I'm in a public one. I had her in my 3rd grade class, but don't remember much connections. (We are in 9th grade now). She ignited the fire because we have a Hood if you will, where most teen's hangout. We both walked past each other but she made extended eye contact and was laughing. It seemed to me she was not making fun of me because she was with her step-sister who is one year younger than her. I'm guessing she probably has heard stuff about me because I've done tons of crazy stuff. Another obstacle is I've never officially held a conversation with her. I think she is pretty hot and most people do too, the problem is she is a cheerleader, and might be a guy magnet at her private school. Hence today is New Years, I was going to try to get her number from a friend and start texting her or so. Strategically I want to come out alive and unbroken so give the best advice possible. Is it worth trying? Should I give up? Thanks, J More answers please!!
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Wilton Wilton | 1 day ago
You should totally go for it. A new year equals new chances and new risks to be taken. Of course, theres always a chance that she'll reject you, but theres also a possiblity that she likes you too and is just waiting on you to make the first move. And if you dont ask, youll always wonder "what if". So its better to know than to always wonder. Go for it
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Wilton Originally Answered: If a girl who is 13-14 has another girl whos 8-9 do sexual things to her does that make is rape or molestation
Molestation/rape is not just about age and the law. It's about the impact it has on those involved and the way the victim precieves the events. I would say that the girl you described was molested, based on your information. There is a big emotional/mental difference between two kids who are 14 and 9 than there is between two who are say, 25 and 20. Five years difference in children is a BIG difference. The fact that your friend says it was "fun" makes no difference. Many victims of sexual abuse report that at the time it "felt good", something that unfortunately leads to a lot of guilt and shame on the part of the victim. Children often have involuntary physical reactions that lead to a lot of confusion. They think that they asked for it or that they were responsible for what happened. This is not the case. I also find myself wondering about possible trauma to the older girl. The statement about playing "mommy and daddy" implies to me that she has probably seen her parents engaging in sex acts. It's possible that it was a one-time, accidental thing, but the fact that she was coercing another, younger child into sexual contact makes me wonder if she has experienced sexual trauma, herself. Your friend is obviously still thinking about this. Does she feel guilty, angry, sickened, or afraid about it? Does she have intrusive thoguhts (thoughts about what happened that won't go away), nightmares, or flashbacks? I'm sure she's confused and embarassed, but It's a sign of what a good friend you are that she feels safe enough to share this part of her history with you. Let her know that you care, that you won't judge, and that you will support her in whatever she chooses to do about it. Let her know that she is not responsible for the way she responded to it at the time - she was just a kid. (It might help to have her think of a kid she knows who is about 8-9, and ask her is she would hold that same girl responsible if she were in the same position. It's a good technique for getting perspective. We often apply our adult reasoning to our child-selves, but it's important to remember the difference.) This really is about her perception of what happened, and you need to let her know that. Say "If you feel as though you were hurt by this, then it was wrong." If you need more information, I suggest going to www.rainn.org Good luck to you both sabine1313

Seth Seth
I'm in 9th grade and I'm in a similar situation, accept the girl I like is in the same school as me. Lots of guys like this girl as well but she has rejected them all. I'm just biding my time, waiting for when I think is the best moment. My advice is to befriend her first and wait until you think it's the right time. Good luck mate :)
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Nethaniah Nethaniah
Something to consider. There is only "The Now" Yesterday's gone and tomorrow never comes. If you don't try..,it's already a No! The only thing you have to lose is maybe a little pride. Wait? Bull$hit! He who hesitates is lost! d;o)
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Kimbel Kimbel
High school, and a freshman? Lol. I remember when I was in your position. Wait till your Junior year. EVERYONE changes. Just wait. If you wait more, girls find it "sexy and mysterious" in you. And find that urge that you can wait. They'll want you. I'm telling you, the key is to WAIT. Let love look for you, don't look for it.
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Kimbel Originally Answered: What career choice should I make? I need help?
You should be a real astate agent, they use math and help people all the time, plus you will get to see alot of pretty houses

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