Originally Answered: How can i win my best friend back?! Please help?
Your life is a mess right now and you are now relying on your friend to at least lend some stability to your emotional harmony. You cannot "win" people, especially when, as you have described it, you were less than honest with her and as a result she now experiences some trust issues with you. Ever relationship, personal, business or otherwise, is defined by the level of trust exchanged by the people who have that relationship.
Friends, good ones at least, in theory, are suppose to trust each other, tell each other the truth, defend each other in their absence and to have, at all times, each others back. Your momentary lapse in judgment resulted in your inability to tell your friend the truth and as a result, your friend now has problems believing your sincerety and trusting what you say. Maybe your lying to her, maybe your not? She isn't sure and doesn't feel like taking any chances, given what she has recently discovered about her "friend". You can be sorry and demonstrate contrition, but sorry doesn't change the fact that you lied, it only suggests that you are sorry you did it, not that it didn't happen. At the same time that you desperately want to get close to your friend, she desperately wants to have some space from you to heal her wounds and to reflect upon the need for this relationship and the lack of trust that apparently exists. You need to give your friend some space and some time. It really sounds like you need the same, but are feeling rather clingy because the rest of your life, and those that figure prominently in it, is spinning out of control and to feel safe, you need someone who you can express your entire being to and not be subjected to negative criticism or negative judgment.Hang in There