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How can I tell if someone is smoking again?

How can I tell if someone is smoking again? Topic: My phone case smells
June 26, 2019 / By Aladdin
Question: My fiancé has a history of smoking and lying about it. Allegedly, he only had a 1-2 per day which he got from his coworkers. He's admitted it twice, after months of protesting, calling me psychotic, a dumb *****, etc. When caught, he's apologetic, asks for help, blah blah blah. He actually did one of those quitting programs, but obviously it didn't help. We recently moved, and after months of doing well, he's started coming home smelling & tasting of smoke again. A lot of the usual methods of finding out are useless to me; he changes into a uniform at work and leaves it there to be laundered, so I can't smell it on his clothes. He's a mechanic, so any evidence of yellow fingers is hidden by grease. All I have to go on is taste & the fact that his phone smells like cigs. He claims this is because of the rubber case that's admittedly old. He wouldn't dare try to smoke at home, and he knows that if he kept cigs in his car that I'd tear it apart looking for proof (future lawyer here). I told him that I don't want to fight, just try to help him quit. My father, grandma, and aunt (none of whom were blood relatives) died from lung cancer. It was awful to watch and I'm terrified for him. We've been together since high school, 6 years, and I obviously don't want to leave him, but I don't think I deserve to be lied to, either. It seems he doesn't care what I think and just wants to avoid arguing. I really don't want to have to pee test him, but this is ridiculous. What should I do?
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Suzy Suzy | 3 days ago
As a former smoker, I have something to add. Over the years, I dated many men that didn't smoke, but I did. I would always be up front about it and they would say "yeah, it's cool." Months later they would decide that they needed to make me quit. The only rule you need to know about getting someone else to quit smoking: you can't. Any effort you make to get your husband to quit will only make him resent you and possibly smoke more. I had to quit on MY OWN, for MY REASONS. Being pressured by another person makes it a thousand times worse.
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Suzy Originally Answered: Sooooo many young girls/ladies smoking?
I wonder the same thing. :( It's an awful habit and most guys think it's nasty--so if they're trying to attract guys, it won't work! A whoooole group of kids stands on the sidewalk across from my school after school is finished and they smoke cigarettes and do drugs. Really sad, I think. :/

Raymonda Raymonda
They stink, and kissing them is like licking an ashtray. There is a lot bigger relationship issue going on here that you need to address. You don't trust your fiance. It doesn't really matter so much that he's smoking or not. The big red flag in your relationship is the fact that you don't trust him. Justified or not, whether he's lying to you or not, whether you ever find any proof or not....the bottom line is that you'll end up divorced.
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Meriwether Meriwether
If you can't tell if he's smoking why does it matter? He's going to die someday and so are you. Let that sink in for a moment, no matter what you do YOU will die someday. You don't really get brownie points for living healthy either.
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Les Les
Someone again.!!! If you want to maintain perfect mental health condition always, remain silent. Don't bother about that "someone" who is an unknown stranger. By the way, who is that someone. There is no harm in helping that someone if he is closely related to you or a thick friend.
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Jorie Jorie
Even if he changes clothing, his hair will trap some of the smell (unless he's smart enough to shampoo it at work.) And by the way, old phone-rubber-cases (or any old rubber) don't smell like cigarettes.
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Jorie Originally Answered: Sooooo many young girls/ladies smoking?
I wonder the same thing. :( It's an awful habit and most guys think it's nasty--so if they're trying to attract guys, it won't work! A whoooole group of kids stands on the sidewalk across from my school after school is finished and they smoke cigarettes and do drugs. Really sad, I think. :/

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