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Family fight. Please help?

Family fight. Please help? Topic: Good music listen while doing homework with kids
June 26, 2019 / By Dollee
Question: My family and I have had a really rough year. It was almost all my fault. I have ADD and it is becoming very difficult to focus in school and when I do homework. I would normally stay up until 4:00 am every night finishing homework because I procrastinate so much. Anyway, my new year's resolution was to go to bed earlier, and not procrastinate as much. It was working. I've been going to bed around 1:00 am which is an improvement. Even my parents noticed my improvement. This is my first week back to school from winter break and it's been going all right so far. But tonight, I have a little more homework then I usually do. I procrastinated a little bit today but I got started and I was working very hard. After about 2 hours of working, my dad started watching some video on his computer. The internet in my house is terrible and can only allow one person to use it at a time without crashing. So I asked him nicely to stop watching the video because I need to research. He got mad at me and started complaining for 5 minutes and then I got back to work. After 1 minute of working, he accused me of going on YouTube. I can assure you all that I was not on YouTube. I was on YouTube earlier today listening to music while doing my homework. But then I noticed it was not efficient so I stopped. This was about 2 hours before he got all mad. Anyway, once he accuses me, I try explaining to him that I was not on YouTube. Being the stubborn person he is, he continued to falsely accuse me. It all just got out of hand from there. It was as if he was creating some lie because I asked him to stop watching his video. He was being ridiculous and my mom was even trying to defend me. Now my dad is mad at me and my mom. My parents have been fighting for weeks now, because my dad just hasn't been himself lately, but they were slowly getting along. So my dad is currently in his room and mad and upset for no reason, and my mom is crying downstairs. Before I continue, I have to admit that I did overreact a little bit at his accusations. But for me, working 2 hours straight is a huge achievement and I take offense to someone telling me that I haven't been working as hard as I actually have. Now before you all assume that I am some spoiled kid, I would like to assure you that I am not. I am a sophomore in high school taking two APs and the rest honors. Im a very good student. I just haven't been doing very well this last semester. So my questions to you all are the following: Who was right in this situation? Me or my dad and why? And what should I do now. Should I ignore him or go and try to work things out with him? Please help. Thanks.
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Carnation Carnation | 6 days ago
You were right because your homework was more important than watching movie on internet and your father should not have gone mad at you. It is good that you are trying to overcome your problems in concentrating. I would advise you to concentrate on that and ignore your father for the moment until he becomes normal. He will become normal once he realises that what he did was wrong.
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Carnation Originally Answered: How do I respond to a mother who is finding it hard to let go of me post family trauma & family breakdown?
The easiest thing to do, of course, would be to ignore it and continue as you have been. However, often the right thing to do is the hardest thing to do. Perhaps what needs to be done is to, first decide if you wish to continue with the separation from your family, and second, speak to your mother again about your desire to remain separate because of all the painfulness you mentioned. This will be difficult to do, I know , but simply ignoring the messages is really not dealing with the problem and it will still be on your mind constantly until it is resolved. So, my advice is to call or write your mother and explain how you feel about things in general and the messages in particular.
Carnation Originally Answered: How do I respond to a mother who is finding it hard to let go of me post family trauma & family breakdown?
It's simple really. When your mother needs you emotionally, she draws you in; when she doesn't, she spits you out. In other words, she uses you. If you fully recognize this, you'll be able to sever the bonds completely and permanently. A certain amount of struggle may ensue with trying to sever connections, as you're already experiencing, and so you need to bring yourself back to reality over and over, until that reality is fully incorporated, and there is no more struggle. Good luck.
Carnation Originally Answered: How do I respond to a mother who is finding it hard to let go of me post family trauma & family breakdown?
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Your dad shouldn't be mad at you trying to do research. He should be supportive of you and not throw a fit like a 2 yr old. I wouldn't worry about it. If he's been acting like this for weeks and he hasn't been hisself than I don't think it has anything to do wit you. Maybe he's going through difficult situations that he keeps to himself or between him and your mom. Don't worry about it. I would just leave him alone. Just so nothing else gets stirred up
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Angel Originally Answered: I am interested in my family history. I was given the results of years of research into my father's family.
Hey Buttermilk, You are very lucky to receive such a gift! Many of us spend years looking for what was give to you. Use it wisely. Organize the files by family surname. If you can afford to get some computer software, check the list below, get some to help organize. Scan all of the documents into the computer, and store them by surname. Enter all the information into your entry first. Your parents, your birth date, location, time, place, etc. Then attach in the place that the software lets you, all the scanned documents about you. Now go to your Mother, or your Father's entry. Fill in all the information about Him (going with your father). Attach all the scanned files. You have his parents, enter them. And their data. And you do this until you exhause the data, information, pictures, certificates, stories, you have. In Genealogy, every answer (parent found), leads to 2 more questions (who were their 2 parents). So, you see, your work will never be done. But what a legacy to leave to your kids - fully computerized Ancestry. To continue the check, get more certificates, check GENFORUM, check Family Search, check Ellis Island, trace each person from a known person, don't skip over any one because you think you know the parents. Prove the ancestors closest to you, then get the parents of that ancestor. Here are some useful sites. When you get stuck, try Cindi's list, which is a list of lists of lists of places to check - fantastic. Also, post questions here.
Angel Originally Answered: I am interested in my family history. I was given the results of years of research into my father's family.
If whoever did thr original research was competent, he/she will have cited sources - wills, tax records, census records, obituaries, cemetery records, newspaper articles that are not obituaries ("Baptist minister runs off to Argentina with Choir director, building fund" - South Fork Herald, Aug 01, 1894) ("Paige Turner marries Don Breaks in garden ceremony" - Springville Times, 6/12/1912) How you check is to look up those sources and make sure the researcher copied them right; the marriage really was 1912, not 1921, it was June 12, not Dec 6, the minister did run off to Argentina, not Brazil, and he did scrawl "So long, suckers" across the church door with a tar brush. If there are no sources, then you have a long, tough row to hoe. You can check general things with the US, UK or Canadian census, if you can get access to it. It will show people living together who are probably related. (Usually. Once in a while a family adopts a stranger, or a cousin, and the census enumerator lumps the child in with the rest of the children. Sometimes a "wife" is really a widowed sister-in-law and her three kids.) You can look up birth, death and marriage records, obituaries, cemetery records. Some are on-line; many are not. If the original research has a citation for every fact (rare, but I've seen it, in professional journals, as an example of how to do it 100% correctly), you can probably just believe it. If the original research has no citations and mentions more than one of the following, it is probably less than trustworthy: 1) Three brothers came to the US; one went south, one west, one north. 2) A Cherokee Princess. 3) The younger son of a noble family. 4) A man who was exiled for poaching the king's game. (Why would anyone parboil the Royal Scrabble set?) If it is somewhere in between, you'll have to decide how much time and effort you want to put into checking it. Genealogy isn't particularly difficult, compared to rocket science or brain surgery, so if you got a "B" on at least one history term paper when you were in high school (no matter how long ago) you can do it, but it does take time. You could check just one generation, as a test. Start at either end - the oldest generation or the youngest. Usually the further back you go the less reliable a family history becomes; the mists of time and the fact not all of our ancestors could read and write obscure many a family tree. Either way you will get a feel for the accuracy of the original research.

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