Please give me a self harm alternatives/coping skills that can help me try to stop? I also need advise on first aid for self harm?
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June 20, 2019 / By Fergus Question:
I've been self harming for a while now but I'm trying to stop.. Lately things have been really bad though and every time I cut I've been going deeper and deeper. It has gone as far as seeing the fat in my arm and not being able to pinch the skin together but because I want to avoid the hospital when it happens I just need advice on first aid and how to keep it covered and clean. Please don't report me or anything. I really am trying to get better and I just need advice. So far I haven't done it in a few days so I'm proud!
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Daly | 8 days ago
If you want to avoid the hospital, before you even cut, you need to make sure the blade is clean. Run the blade under hot or boiling water, and wash it with soap. This will get rid of bacteria and reduce chances of infection.
First, you need to make sure any bleeding is controlled. If the cut doesn't stop bleeding by itself, apply pressure to the area using a slightly dampened bandage or a towel. If the cut is to your hand or arm, raise it above your head. If the injury is to a lower limb, lie down and raise the affected area above the level of your heart so the bleeding slows down and stops. If the bleeding doesn't stop after 10 minuets of applying pressure, then you need to call an ambulance.
Once the bleeding has stopped, you need to clean the wound. Put the wound under running tap water clean the wound. Also clean around the wound using soap but keep it out of the cut. Next apply an antibiotic. Apply a thin layer of an antibiotic cream to help keep the surface moist. This will discourage infection and help the body's natural healing process. Next, use a sterile plaster or bandage to keep the cuts covered while they heal. Make sure to change it whenever it gets dirty though.
From what you said, it sounds like you needed stitches. A deep - all the way through the skin - gaping or jagged wound with exposed fat or muscle will need stitches. If you cut that deep again, remember: if the cut cant easily be pinched together, it will need stitches to hold it together so it heals properly. If you can pinch it together, then use a bandage to keep the skin together. You will also more likely need stitches if the cut is located on an area of the body where there is a lot of movement involved, it will need stitching to prevent re-opening of the wound caused by movement and stretching of the skin. For example a wound on the wrist would need stitches whereas a wound on the forearm would not really need stitching.
Remember, avoid cutting on your wrist, elbow crease, or inner thigh. The skin in these areas is very fragile. There are also veins and arteries that are very close to the skin and easy to accidentally hit.
Its great that you want to stop. I know its hard, but my therapist gave me a lot of things to do instead.
You can do physical things like:
- Holding or squeezing an ice cube and letting it melt on you
- Snapping a rubber band on your wrist - Doing this and the ice will hurt but it wont leave a scar.
- Draw on the place you want to cut with a red marker pen, fake blood or watered down food colouring
- Hit/punch/throw a pillow against a wall
- Play loud music and dance to it
- Spend some energy - go for a run/walk/bike ride/do yoga/muscle exercises
- Allow yourself to cry
Talking really helps. It doesn't have to be a friend or family member. You can call the Samaritans or Childline. These are free 24 hour hotlines. You can call them anytime and say or ask anything. Childline also has a one to one chat with a Councillor if you don't want to make a call.
You can do creative things like:
- Listen to or write your own songs that express how you feel. Songs like Warrior - Demi Lovato, I believe, Human - Christina Perri, By the grace of God, firework (I prefer acoustic version)-Katy Perry are songs I love listening to and help me.
- Draw/paint to express what you want to do or are feeling
- Write down how you feel like in a diary, journal or just a piece of paper, then tear it up
- You can go on online chat rooms about self harm and write something
- Have a hot shower or bath. Use things like salts, oils and music during it.
- Stay in bed
- Use aromatherapy oils
- Eat something sweet like chocolate
- Massage your hands and arms or wherever you want to cut
- Stroke a pet/hug a teddy
- Paint your nails
- Make a cup of tea
Have an 'emergency box' with whatever helps you cope. Get a box an put things like a rubber band, sweets/chocolates, pens, photos, music players, nail varnishes, body creams, face masks or anything else that comforts you. You can write out this list and put it in there so that any time you want to cut, open it and you can find things to help you. Hope this helps and good luck.
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Yoga is a good alternative, get videos and tell yourself that you will keep doing it. Any exercise really is. One thing I did to ween myself off using a blade was got a punching bag. I would use it bare nuckles, that way I could feel pain but I was also building myself up. That got me to work out more, and eventually stop cutting. As far as cleaning them, alternate hydrogen peroxide and rubbing alcohol to clean, use neosporin to prevent infections, and use non stick or gause pads and medical tape to cover them. Tender tape (the kind that only sticks to itself, that is used when you donate blood) is a great coving to keep is in place and together. Make sure it isn't too tight, and let the wounds breathe sometimes. Keeping them covered too long can keep the skin moist and delay healing. Good luck on getting through this, it takes a lot of determination but it is possible. If you do keep cutting for any length of time please use sterile blades.
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Most people who cut have depression. If youre a teen, remember that the teen years are the absolute worst time of life. I am surprised any of us survive it. You are struggling with so much stress, pressures, changes... Your body and mind are trying to cope but ... its hard, dealing with unpredictable hormones and roller coaster emotions.
The brain is a very complicated and delicate thing. It can get messed up and be unable to produce sufficient serotonin. This is called a chemical imbalance ... which is easily treated, very common and nothing to be ashamed of.
It can cause depression, anxiety, panic, obsession, self harm/self hatred, suicidal thoughts, eating disorders, sleeping problems, aggression/rage, anger, phobias, fears, helplessness, hopelessness, hypochondria, OCD, paranoia, headaches, lack of interest in things, lack of motivation/ focus and much more.
According to those who have gone to therapists, counselors and psychiatrists, they dont help much. Worse, they are not even allowed to prescribe appropriate meds to help you get better.
Tell a dr. about your symptoms and ask for anti-depressants. Zoloft/Sertraline is a good one; most people thrive on it and it has no side effects. It produces more serotonin which enables the brain to function properly.
With the right antidepressants, you will be much better, happier, calmer, confident, relaxed and normal. What a difference it makes!! You need them, so stay ON them.
Then, find big HAPPY churches, attend some youth groups there and have fun. Talk with the pastor/minister or the youth pastor/leader. They have more wisdom than you and I. And where else can you get FREE counseling?
Troubled people need peace; a good pastor can show you how to have perfect peace. God loves you more than you can possibly imagine :)
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The only thing I can suggest is if you are able, do NOT replace it with something. Rubber-band flicking is self-harm, but minimal self-harm. Most people fall into other disorders (I have developed an eating disorder). Instead of harming yourself, beat your mindset for just a second and go to the ER. Almost every emergency room is equipped with a crisis worker. Maybe you need to go inpatient for a week or so. Just ask to speak with a crisis worker - you never have to see them again, so just let everything go. I can almost guarantee that they'll be able to help you.
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Doing light cardio workouts will produce the same feelgood chemicals in the brain (endorphins) and will build your body up instead of tearing it down.
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Originally Answered: Self harm help please?
Covering yourself up with clothing where possible - you could say you don't want to get sunburnt or make up some thing about damage to skin etc. from sun like skin cancers - they may not worry in that case
Depending on how bad the scars are, you could try bio-oil or other lotions which help reduce scarring - some antenatal (after pregnancy) oils which help stretch marks can help if scars are small and not very bad.
I think maybe though if this isn't possible you will need to bite the bullet and tell them.
I have been self harming for nearly 10 years and mainly do it on my legs and thighs, stomach etc. so nobody will see but my mum saw the other day for the first time when i was in hospital and flipped out - i wish i had told her or warned her at least as it was a horrible reaction and horrible way for her to find out.
They may be able to support you and get some help for you and understand but i know it can be very hard telling people, especially those who you are closest to and you don't want to hurt them or make them angry and they probably won't know how to react.
Trust me though, if you tell them it is better than them finding out when you can't cover them up or your foundation comes off the scars and they see..
Also sun (in moderation) can help heal scars and applying baby oil daily may help also depending on the depth.
Finally, you could try some lotions with self tan in them as that may help disguise the lighter or less deep scars..
I hope you feel better about yourself soon and that you find a way of telling them or hiding your scars but its hard to help without knowing how bad etc.